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What is Cradle Cap?

Cradle Cap

You look at your baby and she’s just perfect! Those tiny hands and soft baby skin…she’s such a miracle. But wait, what is that scaly stuff on her scalp. It looks like wax ,it’s thick and yellow and not pretty.  Did you use the wrong shampoo, is she sick? Should you call the pediatrician?

Sounds like your baby has cradle cap and it’s very common.  It usually rears it’s ugly head  those first few months of life. It’s not contagious and should clear up on it’s own in six to twelve months. The scalp may look dry and flaky or it can have thick oily yellow or brown patches.  You don’t need to call the doctor unless it becomes inflamed.

Here are what some moms from the Berkeley Parents Network did to get rid of cradle cap.

  • Use the Paul Mitchell Tea Tree shampoo and conditioner. Make sure it doesn’t go in the eyes as it’s not a “baby shampoo” but it worked. We use it every so often to prevent it from coming back. Sara
  • Rub olive oil on the baby’s scalp so it softens the cradle cap. Then use  a comb to gently scrape the scales away. Shampoo as usual. It took two or three times for the scales to be completely gone.       Cathy
  • At bath-time, rub baby’s scalp with oil. Brush the scalp in a circular motion as this seems to loosen the flakes. Then use a comb to get out the little flakes. I used baby oil and did not shampoo afterward. Seemed to work better letting it soak in and moisturize the scalp. Eve
  • My nurse friend said to use a little Head and Shoulders shampoo. It worked like a charm! Be careful not to get it into the baby’s eyes. Elaine
  • My hairdresser told me to rub baby oil or jojoba oil on the scalp to loosen the cradle cap. Then shampoo. It worked perfectly and never came back. But it wasn’t easy to get the oil out.
  • Try using a soft toothbrush and mineral oil. Susie
  •  If your baby is still nursing, take a couple of tables of Brewers Yeast for a few days. This is an old remedy for cradle cap. Peg

The consensus is to use some type of oil on the scalp and gently comb or brush out the flakes. Don’t forget, a little cradle cap doesn’t take anything away from this beautiful miracle you’ve created….your baby!

Blythe Lipman is the president of Baby Instructions. She is passionate about babies, toddlers and their parents. After working in the field for over twenty-five years, she wrote her third award-winning book, HELP! MY BABY CAME WITHOUT INSTRUCTIONS which is available at, and all major bookstores . You can hear Blythe’s weekly radio show on Wednesdays, 11am EST @  Blythe is available for in-home, video and telephone consultations. Become her Fan on Facebook and Twitter at Baby Instructions.

©Blythe Lipman 2011



Pediatrician Dr. Alan Greene says: Cradle cap is a crusting and scaling rash found on the scalps of many healthy babies. The sebaceous glands in their skin are hyperactivated often because of mom’s hormones that crossed the placenta just before birth. These glands pump out a greasy substance that keeps the old skin cells attached as it dries.

You’re expecting your first baby, what could be more exciting? Planning for a new baby is fun and decorating the nursery is even better, What kind of crib should you buy? Do you need a swing?  Should you buy a high chair now or later?  Questions, questions and more questions. There are so many products to choose from and each year  something new comes on the market that every parent thinks she must have.

The first rule of thumb when planning your nursery is to sit down and make a list of items you think you will need. Some of the items are must-haves. But it’s not always easy to know what will actually make you and your baby’s life simpler or what’s just the newest trend.

Once you have your list, set a budget and try your hardest to stick to it. You can buy baby furniture and equipment for as little as three dollars and up into the thousands. Many times you will find yourself returning items you thought you would need but realize aren’t necessary once the baby is born.

The following list will help you create a well-outfitted nursery for your precious baby.

  • Convertible Car seat with two bases(one for each car), to safely bring baby home.
  • Standard-sized crib. (30”x 54”)
  • Standard-sized crib mattress (27 ¼ “ x 52”) Organic crib mattresses are available.
  • You may also use a co-sleeper instead of a crib, if desired. This allows parents to have baby at arm’s reach but in her own bed.
  • Waterproof crib mattress pad
  • 4 fitted crib sheets (28” x 52”) for standard crib.
  • Musical crib mobile with remote for turning on and off
  •  Glider, Rocker or big, comfortable chair. Rozzie from Scottsdale says, “ having a big, cushy chair in the nursery allowed me to sit Indian style while feeding baby Dylan, making us both really comfortable.”
  • Armoire for storage if the room has no closet.
  • Changing Table or Chest of Drawers with Changing Pad on top.
  • Baby swing
  • Musical bouncy seat with vibration and above-head toy attachment.
  • Baby positioner to cradle baby’s head and neck in swing, stroller or car-seat.
  • Exercise ball to help with a colicky or cranky baby. Jill from Arizona says, “ Logan stopped crying as soon as I held him and gently bounced up and down, a real life-saver!”
  • Diaper pail and replacement bags, available in different styles.
  • Baby hamper.
  • Trash can.
  • 3 binky’s
  • 4 swaddling blankets
  • 1 small and 1 medium sleep swaddler with Velcro for easier swaddling (if desired)
  • 6 long-sleeved newborn sleepers or onesies.
  • 3-4 newborn long-sleeved outfits. Babies grow fast!
  • 4 of booties and/or socks to keep those tiny feet warm.
  • 4 receiving blankets.
  • 6 burp cloths.
  • 6 bibs with snap or Velcro fasteners.
  • Baby bathtub or bath sponge for sink.
  • 3 hooded baby bath towels.
  • 6 baby washcloths.
  • Baby shampoo, bath wash and lotion.
  • Mild laundry detergent for baby clothes.
  • 2 boxes of newborn diapers or 12 newborn cloth diapers with covers, to start.
  • Baby monitor (comes with or without video function).
  • Night light.
  • CD player with repeat button.
  • Lullaby CD’s for naptime.
  • Stuffed bear with heartbeat sounds and/or white noise machine. Amy from Phoenix says, “every nursery should have a white noise machine in their baby’s room. It’s so calming!”
  • Baby wipes.
  • Tissues.
  • Infant thermometer, baby pain reliever drops, nasal syringe, saline nose spray and first aid kit including ipecac syrup.
  • Poison control number posted in clear sight.
  • Cotton swabs, cotton balls, petroleum jelly, diaper ointment and baby oil.
  • Nail file for baby’s nails and toenails.
  • 6 BPA-free baby bottles, bottle warmer, bottle brush and drying rack. Paula from Georgia says, “It’s great that baby bottles are now labeled as BPA-free and I know I am keeping baby Rose safe.”
  • If nursing, breast pump, pads, storage bags or bottles and lanolin cream for soreness.
  • Diaper bag with changing pads and pockets to hold supplies.
  • Baby window shade for the car.
  • Attaching travel mirror to view car-seated baby in back. Karen from New Jersey says, “having this mirror provided me with piece of mind. Knowing I didn’t have to turn around to see my baby made it safer for all of us.”
  • A few rattles and newborn toys. Young babies respond to the color red.
  • Camera
  • Thank-you notes.
  • Help! My Baby Came Without Instructions book  by Blythe Lipman. A great parenting book with quick and easy tips to help make that first year with baby a breeze!
    You will need to purchase other items as your baby gets older. But the above list will give you a head-start and prevent unnecessary trips to the baby store during those first few months. Have fun and enjoy your new little bundle!Blythe Lipman is the president of Baby Instructions. She is passionate about babies, toddlers and their parents. After working in the field for over twenty-five years, she wrote her third award-winning book, HELP! MY BABY CAME WITHOUT INSTRUCTIONS which is available at,, and all major bookstores . You can hear Blythe’s weekly radio show on Wednesdays, 11am EST @  Blythe is available for in-home, video and telephone consultations. Become her Fan on Facebook and Twitter at Baby Instructions.©Blythe Lipman 2011


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Most parents realize the importance of preparing their child for the arrival of a new sibling. It will be a very exciting event with significant changes in her life as well as the family. There is no right or wrong way to prepare your child. The most important thing is to take the time to show and tell your child about these changes.

The following tips are some guidelines to help with your preparation.

  •  It is never a good idea to spring something new on a sibling. Nine months will seem like an eternity to a child if you start your discussions too early in the pregnancy. Depending on the age of the child, a good rule of thumb is to start discussing this event sometime in the middle of the second trimester.  If you have morning sickness, fatigue, start to show early or there are changes in your child’s daily routine, you may have to start these discussions earlier. If your child is older(5 +), she may start asking questions sooner if she does notice any changes. You will have many discussions during your pregnancy about the new baby, one time won’t do it!
  • If you are anxious about this pregnancy, be careful not to let it spill over into the discussions. It is not necessary to share all the details. Find a friend to share your nervousness with. Children should be allowed to be children and not have to take on adult anxieties.
  • Discuss this event with age appropriate descriptions. You don’t need to get into a detailed sexual discussion with a 6 year old. My parents talked about how much they loved each other and how at night when they were in bed and hugged each other real close a seed was planted in mommy’s tummy that grew into me! Maybe a little hokey, but satisfied my curiosity. If your 2 year old pats your tummy, tell her that this is the new baby and she is going to be a big sister. Show her a baby doll and talk about feeding it the bottle and changing its diaper, etc. But remember, sometimes less is best. Too many details will go in one ear and out the other. Kind of like telling your toddler to pick up her toys, brush her teeth, go potty and get ready for her bath all in the same sentence! Let your child’s age and comfort level govern your discussions.
  • Take your child with you to a doctor’s appointment and let her hear the baby’s heartbeat. Let her feel your tummy when the baby kicks. These things will make her feel like she is an important part of this upcoming event.
  • No matter what the age of your child, tell her she is going to be a “Big Sister/Brother” and how exciting this will be. Make this the big deal it is! You can even buy a shirt that says “I’m the Big Sister/Brother” and give it to your older child as a gift from the new baby when you bring her home from the hospital.
  • If your child is old enough to understand, discuss how she will be able to help mommy and daddy with the new baby. Talk about helping you feed her,(holding the bottle), if you are going to nurse, how she can help you burp the baby, help get her dressed or at bath time, etc. Try and prepare her in a positive way making her feel like she will play a big part in this wonderful event. If she is not interested, don’t push it.
  • Get a few age appropriate books about new babies from the library and read them together. You can also watch videos about becoming a “Big Sister/Brother.” Blues Clues has a video called Meet Blues Baby Brother that is a great tool to use when talking about a new baby. Also some hospitals and libraries offer sibling preparation classes.
  • If your child is older, let her help you pick out her old baby toys to give to the new baby. And talk about how she will be able to teach the new baby to hold the rattle, play with the keys, etc. Reminisce about when she was a baby. Make this event special!
  • If you have friends with new babies, try and expose your child to them. Let her see that it’s okay for a baby to cry, that you have to be gentle, that new babies take lots of naps and she won’t be able to play with the baby at first.
  • If you are going to stay overnight in the hospital, make sure your child knows who will be staying with her. This is not the time to have a new baby sitter come and help you.  If she is going to stay at grandma’s or a friends house, do a dry run. There is nothing worse than being in the hospital and getting that dreaded phone call that your child won’t stop crying and wants to come home.
  • A short time before you go to the hospital, take your child to the store and let her buy a special gift to give to the baby when she comes home. Let her take it with her if she is staying at grandma’s or a friend’s house for safe keeping. This will help her feel like she is a part and give her “big girl responsibility!
  • If you are going to give birth at home with your child there, introduce her to the midwife, doula, etc. a few times before the event. Ask them to talk with your child if she is older, show her an age appropriate book, etc. And above all, decide ahead of time if you want her in the room during the delivery. There is nothing more frightening to a child than hearing her mommy screaming in pain and being ushered out of the room. While it is a personal decision, remember it can be very frightening for a child to hear or see their mommy hurting and not comprehending that this will result in a wonderful miracle!
  •  If you are going to move your child into a “big girl bed” before the baby arrives try and make the move at least three months before the baby is born. You want to leave enough time for this new adjustment. There is nothing worse than having two children crying in the middle of the night!
  • If you are going to enroll her in childcare or change preschools, leave plenty of time to make this change. A few months at the very least. If you don’t have this time element available, take your child to the new place and introduce her to the caregivers. Visit a few times. Ask if she can stay for the morning. Too many new changes all at once will make it more difficult for the entire family.
  • It is not necessary to shower your older child with lots of gifts when the new baby arrives. One or two gifts from the baby, mommy and daddy for being a new “Big Sister/Brother” is plenty.   A pair of pajamas is a great gift!  Gifts don’t replace mommy and daddy’s love and attention.
  • It’s okay to ask grandma to help take care of your older child until you get your strength back. Once you feel better, try and do something special with your child while the baby naps. Something as simple as watching a video together while drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows will make her feel just as special as the new baby! Don’t worry, the laundry and dishes will still be there. Making your children your first priority will make for an easier transition.
  • Don’t be upset if your child is jealous and tells you to “take that baby back.” This is all very normal. Some children think this baby has arrived to replace them. Try and do one special activity with them once or twice a week. It doesn’t have to be something that takes lots of energy.  Sitting at the table and coloring together, or making a boxed brownie mix, pudding, etc. will convey the message of love. And don’t forget to ask daddy have his special time too!
  • Start a new ritual with your older child. Something as simple as cuddling with them for 10 minutes before bed each night. Reading a special book in bed…something for just the two of you to share and show your love.
  • Take a picture of your child with her new baby sister/brother and tape it to the baby’s crib as well as putting it in a frame for the new “Big Sister/Brother” to display in her room.
  • If your child is in preschool, ask her teacher to make a big deal of this new event. An activity like having all the children draw their families would be great. Send a picture of the two siblings to school for show and tell or even one of the baby’s toys or bottles to show!
  • Above all, don’t feel guilty about not having the same amount of time to spend with your first child. As you adjust to having two children and working out a special time for your firstborn, you will see that quality versus quantity is what counts most. And don’t forget to say lots of “I Love You’s!”

Blythe Lipman is the president of Baby Instructions. She is passionate about babies, toddlers and their parents. After working in the field for over twenty-five years, she wrote her third award-winning book, HELP! MY BABY CAME WITHOUT INSTRUCTIONS which is available at, . You can hear Blythe’s weekly radio show on Wednesdays, 11am EST @  Blythe is available for in-home, video and telephone consultations. Become her Fan on Facebook and Twitter.

©Blythe Lipman 2011


New Baby?

Forget Schedule, Think Routine


        Ahh, to hear that soft breathing and those wonderful sleep noises on the baby monitor is a lullaby to any new parent’s ears. But wait, do you hear crying?  Oh no, the baby has only been asleep for fifteen minutes and you’re so tired!

Sometimes you can stand on your head, bring in a violinist or a whole floor show and your baby will not eat, go to sleep or stay asleep for very long. Not having your baby in a good routine can be enough to put any sleep-deprived parent over the edge.

But let’s face it, babies can’t tell time. And everything is so new those first few months. Their days consist of eating, sleeping and pooping and certainly not scheduled. But the good news is that by three to four months, most babies will be on some sort of a schedule. By then you will know how long she nurses or how much formula she takes, how long she will be awake between feedings and how long naps usually last. While there can be surprises, the getting-to-know-you period is over.

Here are some tips to  help you and your precious little bundle get into a routine.

  • Don’t keep your house quiet. Remember, the womb was a noisy place. You want your baby to be able to sleep no matter what’s going on.
  • After the  first month, wake your baby for a feeding every three hours during the day. This will start to establish a good routine and should help her sleep longer during the night.
  • If you’re bottle feeding and using powdered formula, fill the bottles with water in the morning so all you have to do is pour in the formula and shake. Most babies are fine with room temperature bottles.  And remember, you don’t have to feed her the minute she wakes up. Give her a little time open her eyes, stretch and give you a smile.
  • If your baby is drowsy and too tired to eat, try changing her diaper, singing or gently tickling her feet until she’s awake and alert. It may take a few days to get her body used to mommy waking her up.
  • Make sure to complete a feeding and not let your baby graze for the next few hours. She will never get enough to fill her tummy and take a good nap.  And those hunger signals will come sooner than later.
  • Establish a play-time ritual after each feeding whether it be tummy-time or just a walk outside to see the flowers.
  • While it may be tempting to let her sleep in the swing for hours on end, it’s not a good idea. You don’t want awake time to start at midnight! Use the three hour rule above.
  • When it’s time to go back to sleep, lay her down while she is awake and drowsy. Teaching your baby  to go to sleep on her on will make everyone’s life much easier.

The most important thing to remember when trying to get your baby on a schedule is to be consistent. Once you find what works best, do it the same way each time. Every baby is different and there is no right or wrong way to do things. Trust yourself. Before you know it, your baby will be on a schedule that will make your heart smile.

Blythe Lipman is the president of Baby Instructions. She is passionate about babies, toddlers and their parents. After working in the field for over twenty-five years, she wrote her third award-winning book, HELP! MY BABY CAME WITHOUT INSTRUCTIONS which is available at, and all major bookstores . You can hear Blythe’s weekly radio show on Wednesdays, 11am EST @  Blythe is available for in-home, video and telephone consultations. Become her Fan on Facebook and Twitter at Baby Instructions.

©Blythe Lipman 2011


The first thing to do is give yourself a break. “From birth to two months, just throw the whole concept of scheduling out the window,” says Ari Brown, M.D., coauthor of Baby 411: Clear Answers and Smart Advice for Your Baby’s First Year. Your infant is going to reverse day and night; she’s going to sleep through feedings and feed when you think she should be sleeping. She’s still trying to adjust to the world outside the womb. Trying to get a little baby to adhere to a timetable is a recipe for frustration.

Kim West, author of THE SLEEP LADY’S GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Well and Wake Up Happy with Joanne Kenen, says;

Even very young babies benefit from scheduling and consistency at night time and nap time. It cuts down on their crankiness and crying, and lays the groundwork for learning how to sleep through the night once they’re a little older.  but  even around two weeks you can start gradually laying the groundwork by developing a flexible routine and expanding your soothing repertoire for your baby.

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Blythe Lipman is the president of Baby Instructions. She is passionate about babies, toddlers and their parents. After working in the field for over twenty-five years, she wrote her third award-winning book, HELP! MY BABY CAME WITHOUT INSTRUCTIONS which is available at, and all major bookstores . You can hear Blythe’s weekly radio show on Wednesdays, 11am EST @  Blythe is available for in-home, video and telephone consultations. Become her Fan on Facebook and Twitter at Baby Instructions.

©Blythe Lipman 2011

Wow, is the baby really here? I can’t believe it!!!  While you waited nine long months for your baby to be born, you never really thought about how your life would change.  When your friends said you would never have a minute to yourself, you thought, “I can’t wait to be a mother, who needs free time?”

The baby is now three weeks old. You can’t remember the last time you showered, your shirt has spit-up on it, you didn’t eat all day and you’ve never been so tired in all your life. And you’re wondering if you will ever have time to take care of yourself again.

Here’s how to make yourself a priority:

  • Don’t forget to eat. You need your energy to take good care of your baby. Without fuel your car just won’t run!
  • Try to stock up on healthy foods, fruit and vegetables, cheeses, mulitgrain bread, protein bars, etc. If you have good food at your fingertips, chances are you will take better care of yourself.  And put your fruit in an attractive dish, ready to eat when that energy drain hits.
  • Try to plan the grocery store trips without the baby or after a feeding.
  •  When you do  go to the grocery store, buy yourself a special treat. A candy bar, gossip magazine, special food, something that is just a little indulgence and will make you feel good about taking care of yourself. A little self-pampering never hurt anyone!
  • If the thought of exercising sends you over the edge, just take a walk each day. It’s so important for your mind and body. Getting the baby out in the fresh air is an added plus.
  • Even though you always did your own laundry, cleaned your own house, mowed your own lawn, don’t feel guilty about hiring a professional to help those first few months… sometimes you just can’t do it all.
  • Each time the baby has a feeding, drink some water. Staying well-hydrated is so important.
  • If possible, plan your shower-time when baby is napping  If she is awake, put her in the bouncy and bring it in the bathroom. A nice hot shower will make you feel human!
  • It’s a fact of life that you are going to be up all hours of the night feeding the baby (she doesn’t know what time it is). Don’t turn on any unnecessary lights. Feed, burp and go back to bed. (no need to change her diaper unless it’s poopy).
  • While everyone is very excited about meeting your new little bundle, it’s okay to say, “No visitors today.” Wait until you are ready to handle more than just you and your baby.
  • While Grandma is as excited about the baby as your are, establish some ground rules for visiting and hanging out from the very beginning. It will help ease any hard feelings that may come up. Gently let her know that you need some time to ease into your new routine.
  • If Grandma does get hard feelings, let your husband talk to her. Sometimes children have a better way of getting mom to understand.
  •  When a friend offers to pick up your dry cleaning, go to the grocery store or do an errand, remember these words…”Thank you, you’re such a good friend.” Throw away the “Supermom Suit”. No one’s handing out prizes.
  • Sometimes a good cry is all you need. Give in to those tears. Transitioning into motherhood isn’t easy. Get out the tissue box, and let those tears flow. I promise you will feel better.

My Baby Pajamas would like to say “Thank you” to Blythe for being our Guest Blogger.

About Me:

Hello and welcome! I am a 40 something year old mom of two boys, living in Scottsdale, AZ with my husband Al. I started My Baby Pajamas in 2007 and have watched it grow and mature. I love to blog but am not much of a writer per say. I am a avid runner and love to compete in races. I like my yoga HOT and love to hike with my family and our pit bull mix dog, Chance. My favorite time is hanging with my family and cooking homemade dinners and hearing about everyone's day while my husband and I enjoy a glass of wine.

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